Hey there duuuuuuudes,
I have a whole lot of updates. Most importantly, I have my endo appointment coming up on January 15. My partner and I have been having a lot of long, honest talks about what my starting testosterone will mean and what we will have to do to make sure that we really take care of our relationship. She's nervous, as am I, but I think being excited has really started to overtake whatever nervousness we've both been feeling. I also am planning to come out to my parents right after Christmas, because if it goes well I really want to tell them about my upcoming endo appointment. I'm sitting up right now working on my letter, and I'm posting the rough draft under the cut.

Also! My band just released our very first EP, entitled "The All Eyes EP," through our myspace. My band is called Look, I'm Burning, and we're sort of metalcore/hardcore (lots of screaming and guitar riffing). The guys in my band are the coolest, best dudes I have ever met. Even though I was out prior to starting my band, having them as a social backbone and support system has helped me so much in actually pursuing the steps necessary to make my physical transition happen. They're nothing but supportive and the best friends a guy could ever ask for. Anyway, if you want to support a trans-positive indie metal band, feel free to stop by our myspace and listen to a few tracks, leave a comment, or download the EP.

( photos and letter under the cut )

So, after about 8 months of MtF transition and therapy I flew a crossed the country to visit my family who had never seen me since I came out to them 5 months prior over the phone. They were extremely supportive and it was spread quickly through my extended family with very few problems (twilight zone moment!). So I arrive and get nothing but reinforcement about my decision. Constantly everyone has been telling me I am a completely different person and full of life in stark contrast prior to transition.

That being said all my previous reservations for full transition have fallen and now I'm looking at coming with a sense of commitment. So right now I dress act and with the help of hormones I know I appear ambiguous to people at a distance. My own father even made mention I seemed to be at a "mid way point."

I'm really looking to hear others thoughts on that point of no return which I feel I'm getting to. I know I'll be working on my voice and electrolysis very soon, and other steps that it will become impossible to remain in my current comfort zone to be successful. I mostly just let people presume I'm homosexual male since I'm more comfortable with that. With the full changes I would push for full female the prospect of "point of no return" is terrifying. The hardest is I'm currently going to school to be an MA and I'm worried about attempting to find work without legal change of gender and name. I seem to be more comfortable with the idea of getting a job first then transitioning while in employment so I can establish my skill as an employee rather than my transition being top issue.

I'll stop, I'm rambling.

Celebrating 5 Months on T ( Photos )

So, my friends and I decided that if we weren't going to the city for a rave, how about a house rave?!


It was the perfect idea. =]


Check out the pictures. =]


WARNING: PICTURE HEAVYYY.


( Party people party up! )

That's a typical day in the life of Micah...

-PLUR!

It's been twelve weeks since I've been on T and I decided that it was time for me to post up some pictures. Some of me pre-t and some of me now. So, yeah, enjoy! Recap: Alexander. Lives in Manitoba, Canada. Capricorn. Likes the colour blue.
 ( You're Heart's Like An Engine. )

Hi all. I thought I would introduce myself. My name is Katie, and I am actually quite cisgendered. I am here because I am honorarily part of a very uniquely awesome family. I live with one of my oldest and dearest friends and his son and daughter. When I met my roommate, he was superwoman - mother of three, working wife, holding down two jobs and going to school to support a husband and children. Now, at the age of 40-something, he is navigating through life as a ftm, and trying to fit all of the pieces together.

Myself being happily cisgendered, I have no frame of personal reference for his life, but I love him and support him the best that I can. So, here I am, trying to support my roommate/friend/family through something that, frankly, I haven't experienced before, and in my narrow social circle am not likely to see on a daily basis. It's a journey for all of us, and I am trying to help his daughters understand as much as I can (they are adults, in their twenties, with kids of their own), but again, it's not something I fully understand. His son seems to be fine with the transition, it's the girls who are having a hard time dealing with it.

Did any of you experience having to help your children understand? How did you do it? Can you think of anything I can say to help the girls understand a little more? (They don't listen to their mom, because, well, they're kids, damn it!! lol)

Thanks for being here as a livejournal community. I am so glad I have found this!

For the record, after he gets my fetlife profile set up (hahaha. My fetish? I am straight and vanilla! HAHAHA!!! What a profile....) we are getting him a livejournal, because we were reading some of this community's posts together, and he's looking forward to joining!

I'll stop rambling now.

Would they work for someone getting on disability? or on disability? as i found out due to certain reasons, I will not get as much as i hoped for, for back payments when I get approved, and wondering if I should go through http://jimcollinsfoundation.org/ and if so how would it work? Would it effect me with being on disability? Like will disability ask or wonder how I got the money to pay for it? Or how would it work? I know they pay the surgeon that your going to, would it count as income?

Evening, fellas! Name's Oscar, living in Hartford, CT. We had a decent storm here last night so there's a bit of snow on the ground.  Lately, with the cold weather, I've been rockin' some cool outfits. Check it out - Pre-Op (but in the process of applying for a Jim Collins grant) and been on T for almost 11 months. ( Read more... )

Forwarded from Loree Cook-Daniels. This is last-minute as they need responses by the end of today, but please cross-post to appropriate communities!

Loree Cook-Daniels from the FORGE Transgender Ageing Network here. A few years ago, MetLife and the LGBT Ageing Issues Network of the American Society on Ageing did a well-publicised survey of LGBT people age 45-64. Unfortunately, for a bunch of reasons, there were few to no Trans respondents. They are redoing the survey and trying to do this one right, but we need more Trans respondents -- NOW (by the end of the weekend).

Note that this survey is set up in a complicated way that redirects anyone who is not in the right age bracket and/or that doesn't indicate they're Trans by noting they were assigned a different gender at birth. (So if you get a question about elected officials being out of touch, know you've been redirected.) Despite that, the questions were written for a mixed LGBT audience, so they're not all as Trans-savvy as we would like. Please be gracious if you fall within the needed age range and answer anyway, because we'd like to: 1) have Trans respondents; and 2) show other researchers that you CAN get Trans respondents in a mixed LGBT survey, if you outreach.

Below is MetLife's description and the link. Thank you.

Loree

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The National Union of Jewish LGBTQQI Students's 14th annual conference will take place January 15th to the 17th at the University of Southern California in Los Angeles. As usual the conference will be held over a weekend, and co-hosted by a campus Hillel, the NUJLS leadership conference features workshops, services, community building, and social time. This year's keynotes are Rabbi Bradley Artsen, Dean of the Ziegler School of Rabbinic Studies and comedian Dana Goldberg!

We welcome students from all sorts of backgrounds (religious, not, newly out, not, liberal to conservative, and more). Workshops, speakers, and text studies address such topics as Judaism and homosexuality, activism, relationships, ethics, coming out, and politics. Last year more than one hundred students came from across the United States and Canada to participate, and we anticipate a similar turnout this year! Registration ($80) includes meals (all kosher), housing, and all conference events. Travel and registrations subsidies are available upon request (in the registration form). View past schedules and register at http://www.nujlsonline.org/conferenceinfo.html

Hope to see you there!

i did encounter one prominent tag regarding migraines, but i didn't feel it quite met my question.

i've had migraines (classic variety, with all the aura goodness and numbness and debilitating pain) since i was 6. they had a fairly regular occurrence of 3 to 4 in a year that would knock me down for two days at a time. the frequency didn't change when i started T, although they gradually shifted hemispheres (from left to right side).

now, however, they're becoming more frequent. much, much more frequent. i've had 10 so far this year, and i might be miscounting on the low side. i feel like my life is falling apart. i spoke to my doctor and she gave me zomig, which, praise whatever divine being there is, works. so far i've had at least one a month, with two within two weeks just this past week (with one happening at work).

i've been on T for 3.5 years, so i would think i'm past the "gets worse before it gets better" phase. a few questions:

how did you keep these things from destroying your life? (i don't know if i can describe the absolute panic that overtakes me when i begin to have one, or even suspect i might get one)

are there some questions you feel i would benefit from asking my doctor? (i'm going to request a set of blood panels with T and E on work-up. i want to see if these are hormone related. maybe there's some other imbalance i should watch out for?)

and i've done all the googling i can about possible other ways to prevent or reduce their occurrence. what worked/works best for you? i figure it's much better to ask fellow migraineurs, even though i know migraines are strange, finicky creatures.


thanks guys.

Hello, I'm Kai. I'm 17 and FtN...ish. My actual gender is neutral, but the filter between me and the world changes from male to female and other stuff. I'm preparing to tell my parents that I'm trans within the next two months, so I will probably be asking a lot of things. Right now I'll just start with a couple questions.

First of all, I'm trying to figure out the logistics of socially switching to a different name. Right now, my six closest friends all use my preferred name. Luckily it starts with the same letter as my given name, so I've started signing papers with [first initial][last name], but I'd like to completely switch over. In January, a new semester starts and I'd like to use Kai consistently, but all of my teachers either have already had me in class or know me by my given name from elsewhere. I thought I'd email my teachers, and since they mostly seem cool they'll probably be okay, but I'm more worried about dealing with other people's "WTF, why are they calling you Kai?" Even cis people start using nicknames sometimes, but how do you actually do it?

Second thing is a binding thing. I'm lucky to have a really small chest (34A), but I'd like to get it flat and don't know how. My immediate hope was to find a tight sports bra, but it's really hard to find a size small where I live, let alone an extra-small or something like that. So now that I know I'll have to order something anyways, I figure I might as well just find out what is the most effective.

I cut m'hairs.

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Hey guys, I checked the tags but couldn't find any information about this, so I figured I'd ask.

I've tried a variety of binding methods and although a binder I had tried out from Underworks definitely helped to give me a more masculine looking chest, I found it almost impossible to get the thing on, and then found myself in extreme discomfort for the duration of wearing it. I had recalled someone mentioning on this community a while back about using compression shirts for binding and after giving it a shot discovered that I can get myself decently flat by using a youth sized compression tee and it's a lot more comfortable than other binding methods I used.

Realistically, I'm probably at least a year away from top surgery, as I'm not currently prepared for either the financial or emotional issues that surgery raises for me at this time. Based on things I've seen and read, I think I'm a borderline candidate for peri-areolar surgery, which is preferable for me. I know that over time binding breaks down tissue in the breasts and I'm somewhat concerned about how this may affect my chances at opting for a surgery I find preferable. I'm wondering if using a compression shirt will damage my chances at peri being an option, or if the fact that it doesn't seem to bind me as tight as a traditional binder makes it less of an issue. As it is, I use a sports bra just for hanging out at home in order to give my chest better support and only use the compression shirt when going out. Also, if a guy is slightly bigger chested than is usual for peri, is it possible to use liposuction to remove some of the tissue/fat and then have the procedure done? Thanks for your help!

Hello. Names Monster. I am two weeks shy of two years on hormones. Just posting some comparison photos.

( one post surgery photo potentially NSFW )

Hey guys, Jay here. Haven't been around in a while (though I've been lurking). Thought I'd re-emerge and say hello. I was uploading off of a digital camera I'd misplaced for a while, and found great older photos. Also one or two of my partner and I. Aaand, I'm pre-everything. Anyway, here we go!

( Six under the cut )

I have a baby!
( Ferret! )

Hiya, here's a quick update with pics :) My names Kestin, I live in Auckland New Zealand and am currently visiting my family in Christchurch where I am now the big elephant in the room! Yay.
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Hey all,

I haven't posted to this community before (though I've been lurking for ages), so first, a quick intro:
My name is Liam and I'm a 20-year-old trans guy. I'm a college student in Washington state. I'm pre-medical transition, but I've socially transitioned as much as one who is not consistently read as male can. And on to the question:

I filed my paperwork for my name change about a month ago, and my court date will be about a month from now. Needless to say, I'm excited. I'm currently trying to figure out all the places I need to contact and have them change my name (and it sure seems like a lot!). Mostly I've got things under control, but I've been wondering about one specific situation. Over the summer, I worked at a summer camp. Do I need to contact them and let them know about my name change? I'm picturing bad scenarios with mismatching W2 forms. Would it bring up problems? Because once I change my name with the SSA, I'm assuming both my names would be on file there and linked to my social security number. I don't know. The whole tax thing kind of confuses me, and I've had problems with it before.

If I can avoid it, I'd rather not contact this camp about my name change. But of course, I will if I have to. And what exactly does one say to a former employer about this in order to ensure that there are no problems with my tax forms? Do I just need to ask them to change the name in their records, or is there something more complicated?

Sorry if these are stupid questions. I'm still a bit of a life noob, I'm afraid.

-Liam

I got my T from Wal-Mart pharmacy and it said to inject 100/two weeks and that it was good for twenty weeks, so ten shots. I wanted a weekly shot, so I inject 50/week.
I got an appointment with my endo on March 12th, in where I want to tell him that I want to double my dose, so inject 100/week. But, I counted the weeks that I have left, which is eight and my T runs out in early February. I thought that I could just refill my prescription and everything would be good. Turns out that my refills are on a prescription basis. Meaning that I need another prescription if I want another vial.
So..I'm scared, lol. Should I phone my endo on Monday and mention this to him and see if I can reschedual my appointment to sometime in February or just grit my teeth and go without T for a month? I'm not really sure what I can do. If I go without T for a month, what changes will revert back and what won't?
Thansks for responding and happy holidays.

Hey all, I just wanted to introduce myself. I've recently made the decision to move from Male to Female and have a long way to to.

I've always identified as female, but felt I was forced to hid it especially from my family. Now I've decided to stop hiding and am going to work towards being happy.

From Minnie to Mickey (and all they did was turn off a gene)

Newspaper article on sex changes in mice.

Science really is progressing all the time. :)

Okay kiddiess.

So I realized that a lot of you are ravers, which made me super happy! [Like so... :D]


So, I thought I'd put up some music for you guys to check out from my rave scene [the chitown underground]. :D


Oh, and 2 pics as well. =]]


( PLUR. )

If you guys want more of any of those DJs, just let me know. =]]

Hello all, my name is Kaci, 17 years old, and I just joined this community yesterday in hopes that I can receive help on some issues I'm currently facing. I would also like to say that I'm deeply sorry if I get any of the terms wrong, or I say something that offends anyone. That is not my intention at all. If I say anything wrong or off, just let me know and I'll do my best to remedy it and/or explain myself. :) Anyway, onto the actual post.

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Sorry for all of that rambling and what not. Anyway, that's really all I can think of to say about the subject. I'd really appreciate any advice about this.

I wanted to share my experience since up until now pretty much all I had heard from trans guys were of negative experiences with pelvic exams. If anyone put off getting one for years and years like I did out of fear of it hurting too much, being too scary, etc, I'm hoping this might be able to reassure you a bit!

( My (positive!) pap smear experience )

I wanted to share my experience since up until now pretty much all I had heard from trans guys were of negative experiences with pelvic exams. If anyone put off getting one for years and years like I did out of fear of it hurting too much, being too scary, etc, I'm hoping this might be able to reassure you a bit!

( My (positive!) pap smear experience )

I know that a lot of non-prescription T supplements touted by online sources are frequently pure bull, but I was wondering if anyone had heard of/tried BioEntopic?
I'm getting impatient and frustrated, and I just want some way to move forward. I've been stuck in Limbo for too long.

Any experience to share? Thanks.

-Connor


x-posted

I know that a lot of non-prescription T supplements touted by online sources are frequently pure bull, but I was wondering if anyone had heard of/tried BioEntopic?
I'm getting impatient and frustrated, and I just want some way to move forward. I've been stuck in Limbo for too long.

Any experience to share? Thanks.

-Connor


x-posted

(Don't know what tag this should go under. Will look/try to place it, but tell me if I'm wrong?)
Okay, I'm feeling really confused/frustrated right now. Had therapy tonight, explained to the doctor very carefully how I've been feeling, and how I'm much more serious about all this than before. I explained to her how I'm willing to go through all the stuff, and even though it's scary/I worry about how it's going to go (paying for it, healing, etc.)... I wanna do it. And she seemed really accepting/understanding. And then she said that she still didn't think this is what I really want.

She understands that I hate being in a female body. She might understand that I'm starting to feel curious about having/want to have a guy body. But that doesn't count? I have to have reasons for not wanting this body that I can't even imagine what they are. I've given her logical ones, and emotional ones (hate female specific aspects, and also "I just don't like it! It's not me/how I want to be!"). I don't *know* why else I don't want to be a girl, I just don't want it. At all. Doesn't that mean anything? I don't even want to try to like this body (though maybe that's just me being stubborn). I just can't see anything about it to like- well, I like it on other people, but not me.

With "usual" trans-people (I know everyone's different, but the stereotypical kind, I guess), is there usually a specific reason they hate their body, or is it just a feeling that it doesn't "fit"? Because I think I'm missing something, and it's making me really frustrated.

...If any of that made sense to anybody, could you please offer advice? It sounded more like ranting than anything else, but I really need someone to explain things to me right now.

Hey guys, been a little bit since I've posted. However, today marks my one year! Here is a video of all the changes thus far


(x-posted from my facebook, and such)

Bf took a couple generic vanity photos before going out. As usual, I'm shirtless and flexing, haha. Also, I lightened my hair to "chestnut" to look more friendly and I really dig the color so far. I'm not on T, but I use the AbSlide frequently and I think it's actually building my shoulder muscles more than my belly, woo hoo!

Happy Holidays, all!


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Ok, so I'm assuming everyone has done at least one long "Who I am and what I'm all about," post I hate tradition; so here's mine.

I'm one of those "in your head types." I can drive for hours and lose myself in thought completely unaware of whats going on around me.... no accidents yet.

So to start this with a bang:

* I am transsexual MtF
* I am over critical of myself
* I over think everything
* I like that smell from a freshly lit match
* I am alone in my own right

I think that all can go under over critical.

Everything kicked off before my last deployment July of '08, (of yea I'm former military) after years of failed relationships, failed friendships, unable to really relate to anyone and a nagging feeling something wasn't right, I came to terms with the possibility I was transgendered.

Well my deployment through the Fall and winter of '08 was pretty awkward, since the more I accepted myself the more I came out of my shell which often came out in pretty flamboyant ways. I actually found it comical that my actions were often seen as ambiguous around the other guys, but by that point I didn't care since my term was up in summer of '09.

In December of '08 I started seeing a therapist in Seattle at the Seattle Counseling Services after several months of sessions I was diagnosed with GID (Gender Identity Disorder). So ever since I've been on hormones, (estradiol, and spironolactone; a testosterone blocker) with seemingly endless results, and a constant battle between jumping off the depend into transition or wadding in gently.

The greatest blessing in all this has been that after coming out to everyone I could think of my family and friends have rallied around me in support with few exceptions.

My hopes are to finish my last year on my Bachelors complete a masters and become a councilor for the TG community. Over time I've realized I'm an exception to many experiences others have gone through to be who they want to be, so I hope I can be a support and boon for those who need it.

~Z

Hey guys! I hope that you're all doing well, and not getting too much holiday stress.

I started Nebido four weeks ago, hurrah~! I've been doing weekly vlogs as I mentioned a while back, and today I decided to take some dorky photos. :'D

Some people think that the T is making a noticeable difference, but I don't know. XD

( Ill and proud of just re-learning how to tie a tie )

Hey,

I'm looking for a spoken word piece about trans issues. Alix Olson comes to mind, but I'm not sure if any of her pieces talk about trans issues specifically, or just gender issues in general...

Thanks.

Hey guys! I hope that you're all doing well.

I'm now a month on Nebido -it's all going well, only I've been sick for the past week so I can't say if there have really been any changes (other than a bit of genital growth). All-in-all I've noticed no changes, but my voice may have begun to deepen a little - it's impossible to tell at present due to a horrible cough.

I've spent the majority of my life not passing as male, despite starting my life as male about 4-5 years ago. Then suddenly, out of nowhere, about a month or so before starting T I started passing as male in public, though I don't know how consistantly - but it seems pretty consistant to me.

But still I've been using female toilets, pretty much because I am an utter wimp. I have a bit of a social anxiety issue with public restrooms, and hate leaving the cubicle until there is no-one at the sinks (though I'm okay with biiiig public restrooms with lots of sinks), as I feel oddly unsafe until the coast is clear - so to speak.

So now I have absolutely no idea when to start using male restrooms. I figure that it should be ASAP, in order to help my passing, although my voice doesn't pass yet. I mean, I don't get dirty looks from women when I use the ladies' toilets, but on the one occassion I used a male restroom.. I had no problem there either. (Single cubicle, wasn't binding, left the toilet to get a polite smile from a gentleman going in after me.)

Also, my fiance is cisgendered male and we often use restrooms at the same time, and weirdly the concept of using a restroom at the same time as him really weirds me out, even though I'd always be using a cubicle.

But I'm getting really tired of spending time with FtM friends and pouting when parting ways to go into different restrooms.

So I was just wondering - for guys who use mens' restrooms, when did you make the switch? When did you feel safe and confident enough to do so? How did you feel about using restrooms at the same time as male friends and the like? I'd love to know your experiences.

Sorry for boosting up this no doubt already discussed topic! And thanks in advance. <3

LJ is going to be requiring the "gender" field to be filled out, and they're removing the "unspecified" option.

Details and information here.

As the topic of "trigger" words comes up repeatedly, I was wondering:

Does anyone have a list of these "trigger" words for future reference? The last thing I'd want to do is "trigger" someone and a list would help with that. Thanks!

I seem to find myself in a strange position of late... I'm feeling rather more androgenous than female or male the past few weeks or so, maybe longer if I really think about it. Now, don't get me wrong, I'm loving the fact that I have nice bouncy breasts, and the female looking butt to go with them... but as far as everyday going out and about, I never use makeup, I wear jeans and tanktops almost exclusively, and I don't shave my facial hair for a week or more at a time... and honestly, I can live with myself this way.

WTF?

I used to be so gung-ho on being 100% female... now I feel like an uber tomboy for some reason.

Anyone got any insight/comments/tips for me?

Crossposted to a couple of TG groups on LJ also.

A recent news story suggests that genetic sex isn't as fixed as once thought in mammals.

EDIT: I have learned to never copy and paste href text... corrected the link label.

EDIT: In response to some of the comments: Here's the link to the original article summary published in "Cell". You can read the full article with the links on the right if your interested in the science.

hey guys, has anyone had any problems coming out and telling your family and friends your 'new' name? when i came out at 14 i go by Shane cuz it seems closer to my real name, but apparently, my friends are so used to my real name they dont call me Shane. Now i go by Aiden cuz apparently, someone has a name Shane too in my school. How do you tell your friends to call you by your name that you want? I'm really worried cuz i'm going to college next year and some of my friends espically close ones are going to the same college as me and i dont want them to call me by my real name.
Thanks

I have been trying for the last two weeks to get Facebook to change my name. It automatically rejects it whenever I try to change it on the Settings page, so I wrote them three e-mails, two the first week and one the second (filled in according to the protocols on the Help menu). I still have not heard back, or had my name changed. Have any of you had this problem? If so, how was it resolved?

- Tobias G***, which is not a celebrity name or a number of words crammed together, thanks much

Hey all,

I was wondering if anyone has any experience with the CHN Bronx Health Center and their services for trans folk. I know they do testosterone, but I was wondering what the process was and how much it would usually cost. Honestly, any information you may have will help.

Thanks,

Eli

I realized I never shared pictures of my summer adventures here and I post very rarely here anymore, anyway, so here you go:

I'm 19. 2 1/2 years on T.

( Pictures of a trip to Gettysburg & camping with my boyfriend & his mom. )

Hey guys. I've been having a really tough time lately.

Here's a couple videos I made on what's been going on. I made the first one like half an hour ago.
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I'm looking for advice on how to deal with someone who's being passive aggressively transphobic, or just advice in general.

This has been going on for about two months now, and the only reason I haven't done anything about it yet is because I don't see this person all that often and they do it in a way that is difficult to challenge, if no less problematic.

I have some great friends who rent out the bottom two stories of a three story house. Sometimes we go to visit the people living in the top story, but one of them seems to have made it their mission in life to make me feel uncomfortable about my gender identity.

Many of the times it's played off as a joke. For example: my voice has dropped, and they will imitate it in a mocking manner and then play it off as harmless fun - but the intent to make me uncomfortable is obvious. They will also, in the instances in which I am hanging out with a group of girls, refer to the group of us collectively as "ladies". They've been called out on this and have switched to saying "ladies", waiting a few minutes, and then adding quietly "and gentlemen". They'll also make me wait when food is being handed out because "ladies first", but only if I'm the only male present in the room. When my guy friends are there there is none of this gender separation. The list goes on, from loudly proclaiming all short men are insecure (I'm 5'4) to messing up my pronouns when they know I'm in a situation in which I will opt to let it go rather than make a scene.

I want this to stop, needless to say. My first instinct is to tell them to fuck off and that they're not worth my time, but I want to continue to be able to socialize with the people they live with without creating drama.

I'm not sure how to do it though. To be honest, I'm baffled as to why this person is behaving this way. They claim to have had a trans friend, but most of you probably rolled your eyes when you read that and I have a very similar reaction to that statement. Any thoughts on why they're acting this way, or what the best thing for me to say is? My friends have all noticed it too, and say something should be done, so I'm not worried about whether I should say something, just what I should say. I would really rather have the situation end with them being educated and understanding why they're being hurtful better, though I am aware it's a long shot.